Infertility Update
On Friday I received a life changing phone call from the uterine transplant program at Baylor in regards to screening for acceptance into their trials. I had applied a year ago and never heard back. I figured I wasn’t eligible and just accepted I probably was not going to be able to receive the transplant. Friday, a friend I know who has already gone through with the transplant, asked me if I was still interested. I quickly responded “yes!!” and within 20 minutes I got the call.
I was every emotion you could think of. Excited, nervous, anxious, and I didn’t know what was going to come of this conversation. What is odd about all of this is the night before, I spent an hour on the phone with my sister and we talked about how Graham and I are really going to start exploring our options this year in how we want to start our family. And then this happened the next day. Was this a sign? I spent about 30 min on the phone with them, going over the timeline, what the whole procedure looked like, and the requirements. My first thought was I can’t believe this is happening. This is something I have dreamed about since I was first diagnosed with MRKH. I remember thinking to myself 10 years ago…I wonder if they will do transplants in my lifetime. Probably not. But you never know. And here I was. On the phone with the transplant nurse.
The conversation went really well. And then the kicker came. I would have to be within 50 miles of Dallas at all times. Which Austin is not. So hurdle number one-move to Dallas. Big life change, and not an easy feat. It also, would happen extremely fast. I’m talking, if I am officially accepted start IVF right away, which would cost us about $20k, and the transplant would take place in May or June. Of this year. Woah. I was not expecting this at all. I immediately started to feel overwhelmed. I just started my new job 5 days ago. A job I actually really enjoy. This job was a door that was opened for me, where I took a risk, and I walked through that door. And I am so happy I did. And yet, another door has been presented to me, 5 days later, wide open, asking me to walk through and I’m stuck in my tracks. My feet not wanting to move. What. Is. Happening.
I knew I needed to discuss all of this with Graham, and I took the next 4 hours to speak to a few people closest to me and get their thoughts. I knew I needed to make this decision for myself, but I needed some guidance as well. I left work feeling confused, as to what I was supposed to do. This was a chance at our own baby. Growing in my own belly. Why would I not do this? When Graham got home, we sat out side on our patio and talked through it all and took the weekend to process this opportunity and what it would look like if we moved forward. Talk about scary, life changing decisions.
Well, here I am, 3 days later and I’ve made the tough decision that even though this is literally my dream, carrying my own child in my belly, it is not the right timing. I officially responded to them this morning that I will not be moving forward. I’m heart broken. Defeated. I am not sure what God is planning for me. At all. Or why He presented this to me now. I am trying to find peace that I am making the right decision. For me and my husband. I don’t know if I am making the biggest mistake of my life, and if I will ever be given this opportunity again. I am trying to stay positive, and we will continue to explore other options. Right now, it is looking like we will start with IVF, freeze our embryos, and hopefully find a gestational surrogate to carry our miracle baby for us. Adoption is also still on the table. Until then, please pray for us. That we made the right decision, and that the right opportunity will present itself for us, so we can have our baby Shipley.
xx Sam